Comments on: Neglect Is My Life

By: justanotherkid

justanotherkid — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 20:33:10 +0000

Both of my parents have had a severe drinking problem since i was ten. I spent a year sleeping in the park or at the bar. I thought they hated me because they were always angry. My mom was obnoxious, but my dad just liked to fight. One night I was in the park across the street and my dad came out of the bar covered in blood. I was so afraid i did not even ask what happened. I just tried to melt into the background. I was thirteen that year. He never took another drink after that, but he left to race horses at the end of the week and I saw him once every couple of months. My mom just drank more and more until one day she left too. My sister and I are 1 year apart. We stayed by ourselves for almost a year. Then they came back. Drank some more and pretended nothing was wrong. I’m glad i found some place that i could post that. It feels good to tell the truth for once. Thank You and good luck

By: favia cruz

favia cruz — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 03:15:56 +0000

The good news Daniel; is that parents are more aware that help is available now; more than when I was a child going through similar experience as the one you shared. It is unfortunate that many children today suffer some form of neglect or another that the ones who are suppose to protect end up being the ones to fear and take cover. The love one feels for our parent/s gets convoluted with the pain and suffering and helplessness/hopelessness felt. We survive the best way we can and the opportunity when it presents itself to talk about our past; little by little breaks down the protective barriers that served to shield us from what was experience early in life. Some are resilience to overcome, but something remains that does not quite leaves you, but once in a while surfaces as a reminder of past hurt.

By: Eugene

Eugene — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 21:19:18 +0000

I am seaching for some idea to write in my blog… somehow come to your blog. best of luck. Eugene

By: kristin shupe

kristin shupe — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 03:46:13 +0000

daniel, hey you smart person, I was a mom that did that kind of thing to my oldest son.I am now been sober for one year.AA meeting have changed my life.My son will be 18 in a few months and i am working on rebuilding a relationship. Rough at times but it is worth it i wasnt always there while useing but i am now.I am glad to get a second chance.I hope the same for you and your family.AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 21:37:14 +0000

Kelly, your last sentence is so powerful…read it aloud to yourself. I hope you can get this stuff out on a more regular basis, you deserve to feel good. I joined Alateen about a year ago and it’s made a big difference for me to have people who know what the hell I;m talking about, listen to me. I wish I would have done this long ago but I didn’t really know much about all these different AA kinds of groups - they really do work.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 20:23:05 +0000

Daniel, wow what a powerful example of what alcoholism can do to a family. My mom left me for days also, no food, no phone. My dad was always nodding out, it was so frustrating. I also know what its like to have your parents act like theres nothing wrong. I never had a chance to let them know how their behavior made me feel, I never vented. It was always because I was just so relieved to see my mom walk through the door after a 4 day binge, she’s alive, my God Id be so happy to see her. It never meant anything to her, she didn’t miss me or even seem the least bit concerned of the worry she caused. I just stayed silent, scared to death to lose control of my feelings. My parents were never quite able to give me what I needed. Wow, that feels good to get some of that garbage out, its been a long tome since I shared some of this stuff. Thank you.

By: nobodyspecial

nobodyspecial — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 06:11:03 +0000

Hey man, sorry that happened to you. I know how you feel though. My mom did the same thing. She would take off for days, weeks, and sometimes months. Then they come back and they pretend like nothing happened and that is the worst part! My dad worked far away so he did not come home much and thats when my mom would take off. She drank and did drugs a lot too so when she was around it sucked just as much. I had no one and when you are young you don’t know what to do. It sucks to have nobody and it never leaves you. My parents got a divorce and I live with my dad who came back to his other job. I don’t have a relationship with my parents, I don’t know if you do. Did you ever patch it up? I merely exist.

By: Judy

Judy — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 01:49:38 +0000

Daniel, how sad that you had to grow up like that…most people think about the really horrible things that happens in families like people getting beat up and stuff like that but being forgotten is horrible too. And not just for kids for anyone any age.